I Tried Calling my Father Today and My Sister Ran Interference with HIS phone

    Tomorrow is my Father's birthday. So I tried calling him again, but ended up experiencing the discomfort of my sister intrusively answering his phone and then a verbal attack from her when I told her that she should not be answering his phone when I call him...

    The first time I called; my sister answered my father's phone and just rudely said, "He's not here," when I asked for him. Then she called me right back on his phone and either there was a bad connection or she said nothing when I repeatedly said "hello". (This reminded me of the prank calls that her and her children often did in the early 1990s.) But I called right back, in case it was my father trying to call me back. But she answered his phone again and this time said that he was outside, doing something with his tractor and in the family grave yard, and said that he would be back in the house in about a half hour. It was odd that she was even answering his phone when I called and odder that she was not being more rude to me. But I did not give her a chance to be mean - I had quickly ended the phone calls so that she would not have the chance to say more.    
   I called back in a little over a "half hour” later and she AGAIN answered his phone even though she KNOWS that I do not want to talk to her! So I said, "You know that I am calling Dad's phone to talk to Dad and not to talk to you so you should not even be answering his phone when I call, especially not to play your games." And then she quickly launched into one of her viper attacks and yelled, "Listen bitch, you shut your f....ing mouth..." and I hung up on her before it could get worse, because I know it surely would have. About a half hour later I got another call from my father's phone number. I did not answer. Then yet another call shortly after that, which I also did not answer. I doubt the last two calls were my father trying to call me back, because no message was left for me. It was most likely her wanting to verbally abuse me. I was tempted to report her for harassment, but it is possible that she aimed to cover up her behaviors by telling my father that I called, in her pretense that everything is fine and that she is being nice to me. It would actually be just like her to do this or to even twist things around and tell my father that I am the one who called her a "bitch"...etc. If she did this the last two calls could have been my father and possibly even him aiming to unfairly blast me, like has been done in the past after he'd been manipulated by her.    
   But either way, I do not want to fight with my sister or be subjected to her verbal abuse or suffer the results of her manipulating my father against me again. (Her verbal attacks, can get VERY threatening; I remember her viscously saying to me, "I am going to see to it that your children hate you" and her vindictively saying things like, "You are going to wish you were dead when I get through with you" and after I started standing up for myself she said things like, "I am going to tell the world that you are a paranoid schizophrenic if you do not shut up...") Some of her behaviors have been so bad that I have caught myself blocking the memories of them. I have no doubt that more will surface when I am better able to handle it. Her threats are not idle ones and they tend to leave me worried about what she is going to do next.    
   In the first three decades of my life, I used to always (literally) tiptoe on egg shells around her, in order to avoid her hate and vengeances. But, even though I have mostly not even been connected to her since then, I am as sick of doing that as I am of her evil behaviors, so I am now just being VERY direct and honest, which is my nature anyway. (I am a double Aquarian.) I actually do not want to talk to her at all and she knows this, which I'm sure is partly why she is now answering my father's phone when I call him.    
   Just her answering his phone is her usual disrespect of my wishes, because I had recently set firm boundaries with her. Her answering our father's phone is also disrespectful of him, because its HIS phone and HIS personal calls that she is intruding upon. He has an answering machine for when he is not able to pick up his own phone.

Today I wanted to call my father and say, "I love you, Dad. I hope you have a nice birthday," but I was not able to reach him and I got subjected to more of my sister's crap instead, which triggers bad memories for me, and I am too overwhelmed with other things to be subjected to more of it right now! Even if I were not going through tough times I'd still not want to be subjected to anymore of it. I have had WAY TOO MUCH of it in my life already and I want it out of my life.    
   I now feel like I can not even call my father without risking being subjected to my sister's cruel games or the viscous attacks she launches against those who do not agree with her or those whom she is jealous of or those who dare say anything about the wrongs she has done...etc. (This is what triggered her today - my telling her that she should not be answering Dad's phone. She knew she was doing wrong and she wanted to attack me for saying something about it - the usual.) No doubt that she does want me to shut up about a lot of things that I have put into my writings in the past couple decades, but I won't because I was far too silent for too long and my silence around her problems and her hate and her jealousy and her abuse and her threats and her projections and her fabrications was not good for anyone in the family and especially not good for me or her.    
   It has recently seemed like the only way to stop her from freely and obviously hurting people even more is to stand up with the truths so that she launches into her 'miss nice' act just to try to prove me wrong and make me look like I am the bad one. It has not been very effective, but I think that my openly standing up has helped my father in the past couple years. It is sad that it has to be publicly done this way - that the problem could not be functionally dealt with inside the family and in private, but this has been impossible due to the degree of control that BOTH of my sisters have in the family.

The bottom line today is that my sister is now even more directly standing between my father and I through interfering with what little is left of the relationship that she had already cruelly and INTENTIONALLY destroyed long ago. After the worse rounds of her hell, all that was left of my relationship with my father was my periodic, "I love you, Dad" phone calls to him. And I should be able to continue doing this, without any risk of being subjected to more hell. It is so sad that I can't.    
   I actually fear for my fathers safety and wellbeing, because my sisters are in complete control of him and his life and they have proven to me that they are not even close to being capable of caring for him enough to properly fill his needs and honor his wishes or even to let him freely make his own decisions without them manipulating him into doing what THEY want, in his vulnerable old age. I do not think they would physically harm him, but I think they are VERY capable of inconspicuous things like drugging him and brainwashing him and/or using inflicted or natural medical conditions as an excuse to go against his wishes and have him removed from his home so they can finish taking over his estate. Needless to say, I do not trust them at all, because one has always been extremely greedy and the other has been extremely cruel and vindictive and heartless.    
   I have also been trying to reach my father just to be assured that he is OK. But, like I said in the last post; I have not been able to reach him due to him not answering his phone. Today, due to my sister's contradictions I do not know if my father was really not there at all or if he was just outside doing things. She said both things within minutes of each other and I do not know which one was the truth. I do not know if he is OK or if they have forced him out of his home, since they got rid of my older brother. I do not know if he is sick or well or even if he is alive or dead. And I do not know if he even wants to hear from me at all, although I think that if she manipulated him that far against me she would have launched at the opportunity to tell me so in today's phone calls, just to hurt me like has been repeatedly done in the past even when it was not true.    
   My sister and her son recently destroying my older brother's relationship with my father has left me with nobody to let me know how my father is doing when I can not reach him. And this is really difficult for me, even though there is nothing I can physically do to help him, except for these public writings. I am praying for him.... and for me too.